Measuring Your Progress

Here we are a few weeks into the new year, and many of us are evaluating how we are doing as we seek to pursue new habits. How areĀ you doing?

fingers-1850183_1920 (1)I think I have been using a false measurement of whether I am making progress in my personal habits. I tend to think that if I’m pursuing the “right” habits, resistance should lessen. That the struggles will diminish in intensity. That life will get easier.

After all, if I’m pursuing the right things, shouldn’t life go more “right”?

What I’m finding, after multiple decades, is that life doesn’t seem to get easier. And, confound it, my struggles seem to stay frustratingly consistent. But what is changing over time, albeit slowly, is how I respond to the struggles.

Christmas week this year was a good example. At several points, I found myself feeling very low, even though circumstantially everything was good. We enjoyed a visit with Sherri’s mom and sister, lots of relaxing time, and plenty of good Christmas food.

But my emotions were inexplicably drawn back to dark days of my childhood, when holidays were anything but merry. They were full of the angst of a depressed parent, holiday expectations disappointed, and a lot of loneliness.

When these past feelings are triggered, I tend to go into a downward spiral in the present. I withdraw and rehearse my pain inwardly, thinking that might make it go away.

But I experienced something different this year. While the pain felt intense, I sensed something different – God’s Presence with me. A key verse for me this year has been Psalm 46:1 –

God is our refuge and strength,
a very present help in trouble.

In the midst of the pain, I silently prayed, “God, I can’t make these feelings go away. I’m not sure if I should spend time sorting through them, or move on to something distracting, or exactly what I should do right now. But I know You are right here with me, and there is much more to my life than what I feel. I trust You to walk with me through this.

What happened on more than one occasion is that I felt a surge of internal strength to press forward in my day. To move toward a family member and connect in conversation. To go to God’s Word for more encouragement. To tackle a task.

Maybe your area of personal growth is not living past your feelings. Maybe for you it’s eating better, or serving others more, or watching your language.

Whatever area of growth you are pursuing, I encourage you to use the right measurement of growth: not that your struggle is becoming easier, but that your response to the struggle is maturing.

Then you can say with me:

I’m not what I want to be, but I’m not what I used to be.”

This kind of growth is best measured over the long term. You won’t see it in the first month of the new year. But I encourage you to look back over previous years, maybe pull out an old journal if you keep one and read a few entries. Don’t be frustrated when you encounter the same struggle, just be encouraged if you see yourself responding differently when it comes around again.

Question: what helps you see your progress over the long term?

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  1. Good words Dave. We all deal with stuff from the past, it’s a challenge not to. It took many years for me to finally figure out that I can’t change the past so I had to let it go. The Lord has a plan (and it’s not to live in the past), he is our rock, our strength, he will walk us through every obstacle that we encounter, we just have to let him. I’m glad that you were able to experience something different this year. I too am not what I want to be but praise God I am not what I used to be!

    Be Blessed and be a Blessing.

  2. Thanks for your message, Dave. Made me pause, take a deep breath and think (which is something that I need to do more often).

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